Top Hack To Stop Worrying About What People Think Of You

6 questions to ask yourself.

By Assertive Way

Key Takeaways

Worry about what people think is like a lasting fog on your happiness path.
Don’t worry about what people think of you, worry about what you think of you.
Here is how you can increase your focus on yourself so you can stop worrying about what others think of you and start being free. Complete the following phrases: “Success is …”, “My top values are …”, “The purpose of what I do is …”, “My top goal this year is …”, “I am grateful for …”, and “I like … and I don’t like …”

When You Worry Too Much

When was the last time to didn’t do something you wanted or did something you didn’t want to do because you feared others would judge you?

Scared of reaching out to your network because they may think you are opportunistic?
Scared of asking for a raise or for work flexibility because they may think you are entitled?
Scared of sharing your real opinion in the meeting because they may find you stupid?
Scared of saying no to their request because they will find you selfish?
How much of what you did today was 100% your choice?

Have some concern for what others think is healthy, because we do live in society and community. Healthy concern with the feeling of others is important.

However too much worrying about what others think of you is crippling and often non-justified. Worry about what people think is like a lasting fog on your happiness path.

Worry about what people think is like a lasting fog on your happiness path.

What’s worse is that sometimes those people are complete strangers, people that you don’t care about, or admire. And yet, you still allow them to determine your actions. This is addiction to approval and validation from others.

You’ll know you are worrying too much when you don’t do something that you know is right for you, when you resent others for making you act in certain ways, when you don’t feel in control over your life, when your decision making is based on fear, when you can’t speak up for yourself, and when you are unclear about your own desires and preferences.

To be more confident you must learn to worry less about what others think.

Being too worried about what people think of you means you aren’t clear enough about what you think of yourself. Don’t worry about what people think of you, worry about what you think of you. Is thinking about yourself, your goals, and your life selfish? No, it’s productive!

Don’t worry about what people think of you, worry about what you think of you.

The more you focus on yourself, the less you’ll focus on others and what they think. Start by improving your self-awareness. That way, you won’t feel the need to change at the whim of other preferences and judgments. Then, focus on your future.

Here are 6 ways you can increase your focus on yourself so you can stop worrying about what others think of you and start being free. Complete the following phrases.

To me success is …

Everyone has a different definition of success, and there is no right or wrong. People may judge you and your actions based on their own definition of success, not yours. But it doesn’t matter, because you may have an entirely different perspective on success. If you don’t know exactly what success means to you, you’ll worry about the judgement of others on your success.

Searching for success without defining it is like googling “where is the love of my life?” you won’t find it. Get clear on what success means to you. Define it a successful life, year, and day.

When I worked in consulting and spoke to some of the firm’s partners, I realized “success” to me was different than what “success” meant to them. I noticed I didn’t want to be a partner in consulting, but I still respected their desires to be successful in that way.

Searching for success without defining it is like googling “where is the love of my life?”

My values are …

Get clear on your intrinsic values, what you stand for, and write them down. That way, you’ll know what is important to you.

If family time is an important value for you and someone judges you for leaving work early, you’ll won’t feel bad for it. Their value may be to always work hard above all else, but your value is family. You won’t worry about their judgement because you are acting in line with what you value in your life.

If you value doing work you love rather than doing work for status that your parents want for you than get clear on that value and have no regrets.

The purpose of what I do is …

When you have a purpose, a clearly articulated why, a legacy statement, clarity on the impact you want to create in the world, then you are more willing to take on criticism, challenges, and judgement from others.

Ignaz Semmelweis was an obstetrician (a doctor specializing in childbirth) in the eighteen hundred’s who published that when doctors washed hands before examining or treating patients, women death rates reduced significantly during birthing. No one knew about germs back then, but he still urged doctors to wash their hands. He was heavily criticized for his work. But he had a clear purpose.

Mother Theresa of Calcutta, Gandhi, and Nelson Mandela were criticized by many. However, their actions and focus were grounded in their purpose to serve a cause, not on their judgement.

My top goal this year is …

There is no better way to stop thinking about what others think than to get busy with exciting projects. Get clear on your plan for growth, development, and milestones. Write down your goals and priorities, and then focus on working through them and being a better you.

I realized that when I have clear goals, priorities, and projects that are aligned with my personal vision, values, and success definition, I found myself thinking less about others.

I am grateful for …

Gratefulness and worry cannot coexist in your mind at the same time. Gratefulness elevates your mindset vibrations. Worry brings it down. Choose gratefulness.

Be grateful for who you are, your body, mind, and talents. Be grateful for what you have, be it relationships, shelter, food, or opportunities. Be grateful for the failures and struggles you went through as well because of what they taught you.

I like … and I don’t like …

Find what you like and dislike to do, learn, and talk about. Know who you like and dislike to spend time with. Know what activities and tasks you enjoy.

That way when someone judges you for not socializing more, it won’t bother you because you know that you are happiest spending your weekends reading books or hiking. When someone criticizes you for being selfish because you asked to use up all your vacation days, you won’t feel attacked because you know you enjoy traveling and visiting your family every year.

Recap

Being too worried about what people think of you means you aren’t clear enough about what you think of yourself. Don’t worry about what people think of you, worry about what you think of you.

Here are 6 ways you can increase your focus on yourself so you can stop worrying about what others think of you and start being free. Complete the following phrases.