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20 Helpful Principles To Boost Your Courage To Speak Up

Design your personal credo. By Assertive Way https://youtu.be/g9zf69T8ysY Key Takeaways A credo is a set of principles that reflect founding values and beliefs. Design your own credo to be more courageous, confident, and assertive. Consider including identity, speaking up, ownership, mindset, and action principles. Sign up for our Weekly Newsletter “Nice With Limits” for tips […]

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Are You Introverted, Shy, Anxious, or Passive? How To Tell

Do you know the difference between introvert, shyness, passive behavior, and social anxiety?
This will help you speak up for yourself, be more assertive at work and in life without being rude or aggressive, and stop being a people-pleaser.
➡️Introversion
Introverts get energy from time alone while extroverts get energy in social activities. There are many exceptional introverted leaders such as Bill Gates, Elon Musk, and Mark Zucherberg.
➡️Shyness
Shy people avoid eye contact, feel nervous, and awkward in social events. They magnify their fear of negative judgement from others. They feel anxious and avoid some social situations but are still able to have a functioning and happy life.
➡️Social Anxiety
People with social anxiety may not take a promotion because they can’t handle the attention in the meetings. Social anxiety is an extreme version of shyness that affects people’s life because it causes people to withdraw from several situations.
➡️Passive Behavior
Passive behavior may be saying yes when you mean no, not asking for a promotion when you want it, or not giving negative feedback to an employee. Passive’s don’t express their needs, desires, and rights. They give away their power. It is often associated with people pleasing, being submissive, co-dependency, or even being “nice.”
➡️What Do You Need?
You can end social anxiety, be less shy, and be more assertive. That way you’ll be less crippled socially, find your personal freedom, have more joy, and feel more in control.

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How To Tell Your Family You Won’t Be Home For Holidays

As we approach 2020 end of year holidays, be it Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, New Years, consider the Coronavirus risk you pose to your family members, especially if they are seniors or have risk conditions. Don’t have regrets later.
If you decide to not visit, then be more present virtually. Remember that when you aren’t present in person, you need to overcommunicate your emotions since you don’t have the same connection through eye contact, touch, body language, nodding, and facial expressions.
Enhance your virtual conversations by using more emphatic words that communicate emotion, by accentuating your intonation, and by using expressions to show you are listening.
Here’s 3 strategies you can use to bridge the communication gap and influence your loved ones in these emotional hard conversations:
• Get them to empathize with you
• Make it about you, not them
• Make it about the long-term benefits vs. short term pains
Here’s 6 steps to break the negative news that you’re not visiting your esteemed family members and friends during this holiday season in a warm, caring, and loving way:
1. Reaffirm the relationship value
2. Be direct about your decisions without hesitation
3. Say why based on your feelings or concerns
4. Offer an alternative
5. Reaffirm the relationship value
6. Paint a brighter future

Over the holidays, choose to have both safety and connection.

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