Google researcher Ojuolape shares courageous moves and powerful conversations that led to an important career change, the pursuit o big passion project, and helped her initiate a hard conversation at work.
Maria Kauffman reveals her powerful stories as a woman in male-dominated workplaces: getting a massive salary increase, landing the job she wanted that had already been committed to another person, and saying no to her boss.
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5 steps to respond to an unfair accusation are to stay calm, change your tone to serious, keep your message short and to the point, talk about what you want and the consequences, move on quickly and treat the aggressor respectfully afterwards.
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To disarm a manipulator, postpone your answer to give yourself time to ponder, question their intent, look disinterested by not reacting, establish boundaries and say no firmly, and maintain your self-respect by not apologizing when they blame you for their problems.
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Marie Kondo is very assertive even though she is mellow, friendly, and introverted. She has clear boundaries, speaks her mind, doesn’t worry about what other people think of her, is authentic, and is focused on what matters to her.
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Here is the roundup of AssertiveWay.com best 15 articles in 2020 so that you start the new year feeling inspired and empowered.
They include topics ranging from speaking up, courage, confidence, joy, leadership, managing up, resourcefulness, anxiety, worry, stress, and more.
1. Nine Questions To Decide When To Practice Speaking Up (Forbes)
2. When You Need To Over-Communicate With Your Boss (Forbes)
3. When You Don’t Like Being Nice: Finding An Alternative (Tiny Buddha)
4. 5 Easy Ways to Crush Anxiety In Hard Conversations
5. Are You Introverted, Shy, Anxious, or Passive? How To Tell
6. 5 Easy Ways to Promote Your Work More Organically
7. 24 Practical Ways to Create More Joy at Work
8. 7 Ways to Be More Resourceful and Boost Resourcefulness
9. How To Stop Worrying About What People Think Of You
10. 20 helpful Principles To Boost Your Courage To Speak Up
11. 10 Powerful Confidence Lessons from Flamenco Dance
12. How to Make Your Boss Appreciate Your Hard Work
13. How To Show You Care For Your Team
14. How to Overcome Feeling Lost in Your New Job
15. 3 Simple Ways to Relieve Your Stress with Assertiveness
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Do you take judgement from others too seriously?
Judgement always feels like a threat, but most of the time it isn’t. And in the few moments where there is a real threat, you have more influence over the outcome then you think.
Not all judgement is created equal. You can’t get rid of others judgment of you, but you can police it. It’s your job to regulate the access doors to your sanctuary.
Who’s judgement are you worried about? How relevant and accurate is that judgement? How can you respond to that judgement?
Here are 12 questions to help you identify when to not take judgment seriously.
1. Will their judgement matter 3 years from now?
2. Can their judgement cause you any real harm?
3. Does the judgement have any significant meaning for you?
4. Are they actually judging you?
5. Do you admire and respect them?
6. Are they well intentioned?
7. Are they knowledgeable enough?
8. Do they understand your perspective?
9. Do you agree with their expectation of you?
10. Do you want feedback on that topic now?
11. Is the way they are delivering judgment serving you?
12. What does someone that you actually admire and respect think of you?
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As we approach 2020 end of year holidays, be it Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, New Years, consider the Coronavirus risk you pose to your family members, especially if they are seniors or have risk conditions. Don’t have regrets later.
If you decide to not visit, then be more present virtually. Remember that when you aren’t present in person, you need to overcommunicate your emotions since you don’t have the same connection through eye contact, touch, body language, nodding, and facial expressions.
Enhance your virtual conversations by using more emphatic words that communicate emotion, by accentuating your intonation, and by using expressions to show you are listening.
Here’s 3 strategies you can use to bridge the communication gap and influence your loved ones in these emotional hard conversations:
• Get them to empathize with you
• Make it about you, not them
• Make it about the long-term benefits vs. short term pains
Here’s 6 steps to break the negative news that you’re not visiting your esteemed family members and friends during this holiday season in a warm, caring, and loving way:
1. Reaffirm the relationship value
2. Be direct about your decisions without hesitation
3. Say why based on your feelings or concerns
4. Offer an alternative
5. Reaffirm the relationship value
6. Paint a brighter future
Over the holidays, choose to have both safety and connection.
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6 questions to ask yourself. By Assertive Way https://youtu.be/NIZ9lE5f8us Key Takeaways Worry about what people think is like a lasting fog on your happiness path. Don’t worry about what people think of you, worry about what you think of you. Here is how you can increase your focus on yourself so you can stop worrying
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It’s the best book I’ve read so far on how to say no effectively. By Assertive Way “The Power of a Positive No” has a negotiation take on saying no. The book transforms a simple no into an epic journey that is illustrated in examples of historical facts, movements, and negotiations. Facts The book “The
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Reshape your anticipation curve for planned hard conversations. By Assertive Way Most of the anxiety we feel in hard conversations does not come from the actual conversation moment that usually lasts only a few minutes. Rather, it comes from the anticipation stress hours, days, weeks, even months before that dreaded conversation. And the hours, days, weeks,
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It’s a lot easier and more effective. By Assertive Way Have you ever been in a heated argument with someone for a long time, and suddenly you or the other person says “wait a minute, why are we arguing, we are talking about the same thing!” And you realize that despite arguing you are on
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Set career boundaries without offending. By Assertive Way When I graduated from college, I was lucky to have 2 great job offers. My father who I admire was very vocal about his view that I should take the first job offer. He has a strong personality, and I never spoke up or disagreed with him
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It is not the same as being kind and considerate. https://youtu.be/-BBa9hujPhc By Assertive Way It’s easy to fall into the people-pleasing trap and not even know it. We think our kindness drives our behavior, but sometimes fear does instead. The more successful you become, the more people you will displease. Build your confidence to
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The secret to Ray Dalio’s success. By Assertive Way Many thought Ray Dalio, the founder of the biggest hedge fund in the world – Bridgewater Associates, was crazy for running his company with radical transparency. He explains the makings of Bridgewater’s unusual culture in his book “Principles.” He says those principles were the recipe for
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Assertiveness for women in 24 quotes from 10 women. By Assertive Way What is the advice of the most influential and powerful women in business to help other women advance in their careers and dreams? Here are 24 empowering quotes from extraordinary business women in the United States. Their advice is about speaking up, having boundaries,
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You don’t have to breathe deeply, meditate, or exercise. Just speak up more. https://youtu.be/L7NiR3XpyGY By Assertive Way In these times of uncertainty, you don’t want to add unnecessary stress to your life. You already know stress is bad for you. It worsens your health, productivity, and relationships. In this article you will learn 3 ways
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7 times you can say no without any guilt! Get FREE Training By Assertive Way Saying no is tricky. Knowing when to say no and when to say yes can make it much easier to actually say it when you need to. It will also help you deal with the guilt you might feel when
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Speak up, have empathy and give feedback. By Assertive Way My team and I were in charge of setting the detailed revenue targets for the company, reporting them and getting buy-in from senior stakeholders. I was usually not invited to the various meetings with C-suite about the revenue targets. Those were led by my boss
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You can say no and still be polite. Here are 10 signs of politeness when you say NO.